I’ve seen it happen over and over again where people allow their egos to get in the way of keeping a growth mindset. In our obsession with perfectionism and our fear of being perceived unknowledgeable or being judged by others in not catching mistakes or errors, so often as leaders, we obsessively compulsively need to point out the negative. Oh, sure we say, we have the best intentions, and want to help people grow, but hmmm what about deferring to seeing and praising what is right?
As teachers, we were encouraged to give two stars and a wish as timely feedback. I think that it is a great rule of thumb for all areas of life. Adopting this strategy, we are supporting and encouraging those in our lives while still offering positive constructive feedback or suggestions. Two stars and a wish is an easy metaphor to incorporate into our daily leadership practice.